If I asked you – and I am!- , ‘What does Quality time with yourself look like?, what would you say?
It may or may not feel a little strange contemplating this question, as often we’re expected and encouraged to give quality time to our friends, family and especially partners and children, but how often are we encouraged to spend ‘quality’ time with ourselves?
And I’m stressing the ‘quality’ because time in itself is not always- and you may know- quality at all.
When you realise and really accept that the most important relationship in your life is the one with yourself – and that all other relationships in your life can only reflect the quality of this one– then quality time with yourself makes perfect sense.
SO, the next step, once you’re clear about or at least willing to consider the concept that you are THE most important person in your life, is to spend quality time, preferably daily, with yourself.
Now, when are in the beginning stages of doing this, our minds may go right into labelling this time as ‘isolation’, ‘alone, ‘lonely’, anti-social’.
Allow yourself right now to drop these judgements, now. They are unhelpful, untrue and your (well-meaning but often overworked and mis-informed) mind’s way of keeping your attention anywhere but with yourself.
So come back to the word with .
It’s quality time with yourself….ie you are anything but ‘alone’. (Did you notice the ‘all’ and ‘one’ in alone?….there’s a hint!)
You are in a relationship, whether you or the world gives you a label of single, partnered, married or otherwise…a relationship with yourself, whether you’re acknowledging that or not.
And it’s this relationship that we all crave
When you feel into this concept, and consider the implications of it, you may start to consider different things like,
~the potential to support yourself
~the opportunity to listen to yourself
~the invitation to celebrate yourself
~the desire to express your creativity
When you open up the space in your life for quality time with yourself…away form the energy of other people, the expectation of relationships, the demand of the outer world…you allow yourself the golden opportunity to truly form a profoundly satisfying and deeply fulfilling relationship with yourself.
This is pure joy in itself!
But wait, there’s more!….
You then get to share this experience of self-connection with everyone and everything in your life…but from a different space, from a space of self-connection, self-belonging (you’ve found home within yourself) and self-acceptance.
Then, you not only become a resource for others, but most importantly, a resource that is fully sustainable- because you’ve tapped into your ‘Inner Well of Being’….of ‘being you’.
By spending quality time with yourself, you also allow yourself to be enriched by relationships (because you are whole already) rather than completed by them (which comes from the untrue belief that you are not complete).
And then, once you’re over-flowing with appreciation for yourself, it can’t help but spill out unconditionally and without expectation onto the people in your life.
So, consider creating not only time in your life to be with yourself, but be sure that it’s quality time. Quality time where you show up at your best, fully present, fully attentive and enthusiastic about the chance to engage with yourself and discover (dis-cover!) new aspects of the incredible and unique person that you are.
And think about what quality time may look and feel like for you. What environments feel supportive to you, is it outdoors or indoors, what activities nourish you, what physical, mental and emotional ‘space’ and atmosphere can you set up for yourself that will encourage the real you to come out a little further into the sunshine and into your life?
I hope you have a beautiful weekend full of quality time with you!